WATCH WHAT YOU SAY WHEN YOU’RE ANGRY
When have to watch what we say when we are angry, because we cannot take back our words.
Have you ever said something that you regretted and wished you could have expressed yourself in a better way? You will find yourself in situations at work or in your marriage where you will need to remember a few rules on good communication in order to avoid problems.
1. Remember that the problem isn’t necessarily what you say but how you say it.
I’ve heard people say “I do not mince my words”. These people tend to argue that they speak only the truth.
However, you must remember that it’s not only about saying the right things but also about how you say them, saying them to the right person (don’t gossip) and at the right time.
2. Don’t keep frustration in your heart because this will poison you and steal your peace. For example, it can cost you your job or a divorce.
You’ll only be able to bear frustration for a certain amount of time but eventually it will cause you to burst and speak with rage, ruining your relationships and making things worse. For instance, speaking with rage can cost you your job.
3. Vent every situation
You shouldn’t keep conflicts unresolved, because they will only deteriorate your relationships even more. If you know there is something pending in your relationship, then don’t turn your back and think “time will fix it”. No! Time only makes things worse, especially when there’s a conflict that needs to be resolved.
Be brave and decide to fix all conflicts; do it quick, Biblically, with respect and dignity, and without striking any destructive words.
Remember this phrase and you will easily solve your problems, “It’s not what I say, but how I say it”.
Think about it:
What relationship have you harmed with your words? ¿How can you fix it this week?
How can you monitor your words when you get angry?