HOW TO SOLVE CONFLICTS IN A HEALTHY MANNER
In this world, we will have disagreements whether it is with our family, at school or at our job. Most people are used to reacting with aggression and violence when they are disrespected.
One of our core values are healthy relationships. It is very important to keep healthy relationships with every person, and to fix every problem quickly and biblically.
How to solve conflicts using the technique: FIGHT?
F: Fix your eyes on your spouse’s eyes. When you both disagree on something, make sure to look at them or else you will see them as an enemy in your mind.
I: Intentionally avoid destructive things. When you are in an argument, do not make the situation any worst. Avoid remembering the past or bringing up things that you already forgave. It is best to ask for a time out and calm down, instead of reaching a point of physically fighting.
G: Govern your tongue. We shouldn’t verbally mistreat others, because once the line is crossed there are no limits. In order to avoid bad words and offense do the following:
– Remain calm.
– Attack the problem, not the person: You should say, “I feel like you don’t pay attention to me!” instead of, “It’s because you do not pay attention to me!”
– Learn to listen.
– Learn to ask for forgiveness.
– Do not take things personally.
H: Hands stretched out. Do not leave any pending conflicts, every single one of them should be finished. Its best to stretch out your hands; when there has been a lot of anger, try to get to the point with your spouse and children.
T: Thank God for the victory. Do not look at your problems as failures, instead use them as opportunities to get to know your children and spouse. Each time we solve a problem, we become closer as a family. We should thank God for the victory!
Think about it:
How have your relationships been at home, work or with your spiritual family? What steps do you need to implement to solve your conflicts?
Has it been hard for you to remain calm? What do you need to apply to have healthy relationships?
